Love Vs Fear

Love Vs Fear

By Inspirational Diva Allison Bell

Many psychologists believe that humans have two basic emotions, love and fear, and that all other emotions arise from these two.

You are on your way to work and you are running 15 minutes late. You jump in the car to notice you are completely out of gas. After a rushed gas station stop, you hop on the freeway only to sit in bumper to bumper traffic due to a 3 car pile up. Your boss called and said your clients are waiting in your office. At this point your blood is boiling, blood pressure is at an all time high.

There must be hundreds of different emotions, feelings, reactions what would make psychologists believe there are only 2 basic emotions? "Loved based responses are easy to pick out joy, kindness, compassion, happiness, and gratitude for example. Fear based emotions can be a bit trickier to explain. How can anger, jealously, frustration, or greed have their roots in fear? Discovering the answer to that question involves the proverbial peeling away from layers."*

Going back to our scenario being late to work, clearly your initial emotions would be frustration that the freeway is packed, anger at yourself for not getting gas the day before, and irritation at the consequences of a big car accident. If you start to peel back these layers, just like an onion, the core emotion is fear. Fear of loosing these very important clients due to your tardiness, fear of loosing your job, fear of not being able to make your mortgage payment, etc. are all reasons to cause adverse emotions like anger & frustration.

Realizing that Love Vs Fear is an emotional teeter- totter back and forth can help us understand why we react in certain situations. If you are angry at your spouse, the question you could ask yourself is what are my major fears about this relationship? How does my spouse's behavior tap into my fears? When I am irritated, what fear might be set off? "Fears often snowball like this one irrational thought connected to another and it's a lot easier to become angry or frustrated than to face those fears. Soon you feel overwhelmed."*

"Fear is the energy which contracts, closes down, draws in, runs, hides, hoards, harms. Love is the energy which expands, opens up, sends out, stays, reveals, shares, heals. Fear wraps our bodies in clothing, love allows us to stand naked. Fear clings to and clutches all that we have, love gives all that we have away. Fear holds close, love holds dear. Fear grasps, love lets go. Fear rankles, love soothes. Fear attacks, love amends," according to Conversations with God, by Neil Donald Walsh. **

If we have the awareness of our 2 emotions, then we can make a knowledgeable choice of how to react to different situations. You have the power to make a different response. If you realized that you were going to be 15 minutes late for work, a better reaction with love, and not fear, would be to first accept that you are late. Call your boss or a co- worker, and explain your situation and see if they are available to meet and greet with your clients. "The key to this entire process is your ability to align yourself internally. This connection provides you with a calmness that allows you to have far more choices of how to respond to a situation. Love is the most powerful feeling we possess and if we allow it, it will take good care of us."**

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2006 Copyright© Embrace Today Concepts, Inc *Source: The Idiots Guide to Spirituality in the Workplace, by Ealy. **Source: Conversations with God, Walsh.